TRUST AND RESPECT AS THE FOUNDATIONAL VALUE OF RELATIONSHIPS – Trust or Vishwas is the foundational value in relationships. “To be assured that each human being inherently wants oneself and the other to be happy and prosperous” If we have trust in the other, we are able to see the other as a relative and not as an adversary.
There are two aspects of trust:
- Intention (wanting our natural acceptance)
- Competence (being able to do)
Both intention and competence are aspects of trust. Intention is what one aspires for (our natural acceptance) and competence is the ability to fulfill the aspiration. In intention every human being wants to do what is right, only competence may be lacking which needs to be developed through proper understanding and practice. But what we are doing today is that when we are judging our self we are judging on the basis of our intention, whereas, when we are judging the other we are judging him on the basis of his competence.
“If you trust everybody, people will take undue advantage of you“. What is the basic error in this statement?
The basic error is that if we trust everybody, people will not take undue advantage of us. On the contrary, it gives us inner strength and we become far more effective in interacting with and ” dealing with different people “. This is simply because, we already are sitting with the knowledge of what the person truly wants, truly intends, even though the person may not know this himself/herself! Hence, our ability to interact with people becomes far more effective and in the process, we don’t get hurt, we don’t get disturbed, and we end up becoming an aid to the other.
In other words, becoming aware, having the right understanding, and living with the assurance in a relationship does not mean becoming “stupid”! It only makes us, more competent. Further, what is being said here is that we have trust in the intention of everyone, but, when it comes to making a program with someone, I evaluate my competence, I evaluate his competence, and make the program accordingly. This makes me more effective.
Also, read
- Difference Between Intention and Competence
- Respect – respect means individuality
- Understanding the Harmony in the Society
- Factors for fear in Human values
- Sah Astitva means Human values