VALUES IN HUMAN – HUMAN RELATIONS – No individual or nation can live by holding itself apart from the community of others, and whenever such an attempt has been made under false ideas of greatness, policy, or holiness- the result has always been disastrous to the secluding one.
The beauty of life is relationships. From time of birth to death we remain trapped in a web of relationships. Our family, friends, office, social, and many others are the threads of this web. These relations give us a lot and take a lot from us as well.
They may change our entire personality even. You will not be able to recognize the reasons behind it but somehow these changes will link to relations. Here it does not mean that relations are bad and one should not take care of that. But practically you cannot enjoy life in totality with them or without them. It means you have to be part of this.
” Values without reason would be blind, without feeling would be impotent and without deeds. would be empty” – Richard Morrill
There are certain basic and important values in maintaining relationships. These values, we all know, are the backbone of health and happy family relations. The feelings, emotions, sentiments, and respect all are of real importance. These values lead to the elimination of friction and the establishment of total harmony in relationships on a long-term basis.
Values in human – human Relations are
- Fundamental Values
- What is Nyaya
- The way to Vishwas and Samman
- Values in Relationships
The Sanskrit meaning of Nyaya is a rational argument. This is one of the six orthodox schools of Hindu philosophy that focuses on logic. Based on texts known as Nyaya sutras written by Aksapada Gautama, this school made a very significant contribution to the study of logic and epistemology in Indian thoughts.
Nyaya has certain characteristics. In order to understand the Nyaya fully we need to understand the basic characteristics based on the references available in ancient literature. This concept is very well defined in the Vedas and Upanishads.
Nyaya is the recognition of values (definite feelings) in a relationship, their fulfillment, and the right evaluation of the fulfillment resulting in mutual happiness. Justice concerns itself with the proper ordering of things and people within a society. There are four elements: Recognition of values, fulfillment, evaluation, and mutual happiness ensured. When all four are ensured, justice is ensured. Mutual fulfillment is the hallmark of justice. And justice is essential in all relationships. Justice starts with family and slowly expands to the world of family. The child gets an understanding of justice in the family. With this understanding, he goes out into society and interacts with people.
If the understanding of justice is ensured in the family, there will be justice in all the interactions we have in the world at large. If we do not understand the values in relationships, we are governed by our petty prejudices and conditionings. We may treat people as high or low based on their body (particular caste, sex or race, or tribe), on the basis of wealth one possesses, or on the belief systems that one follows.
All this is the source of injustice and leads to a fragmented society while our natural acceptance is for an undivided society and universal human order. Having explored the harmony in human beings, we are able to explore the harmony in the family. This enables us to understand harmony at the level of society and nature/existence. And this is the way, the harmony in our living grows. We slowly get the competence to live in harmony with all human beings.
VISHWAS – TRUST
” It is better to be trusted than to be loved ” – David O. Mackay
Trust is both an emotional and logical act. Emotionally, it is where you expose your vulnerabilities to people, believing they will not take advantage of your openness. Logically, it is where you have assessed the probabilities of gain and loss, calculated expected utility based on hard performance data, and concluded that the person in question will behave in a predictable manner.
In practice, trust is a bit of both. I trust you because I have experienced your trustworthiness and because I have faith in human nature. We feel trust. Emotions associated with trust include companionship, friendship, love, agreement, relaxation, and comfort. There are a number of different ways we can define trust.
Samman – Respect
Samman means individuality. The sense of individuality is a prime object. This is the first basic step toward Samman. Once we realized that we are individuals then only we can see our self different from others. Respect is the inner feeling. In India we have seen lots of ups and down in history. The caste system actually impacted the respect of individuals.
The so-called lower castes are deprived of several rights. The real nations who live in cottages have forgotten their manhood and their individuality. Trodden under the feet of the Hindu, Mussulman, or Christian, they have come to think that they are born to be trodden under the foot of everybody who has money enough in his pocket. They have to be given back their lost individuality. They are to be educated.
” Try not to become a man of success but rather try to become a man of value. ” – Albert Einstein 1879-1955, German-born brilliant American theoretical physicist
EGO Vs Respect
Education means the vision and this vision leads to respect. We should understand that there is a very thin line that separates respect from ego. Ego is negative. It stops progress because it narrows your vision and natural acceptance. On the other hand, respect is progressive. It allows individuals to see beyond themselves for the betterment of the entire society. Respect doesn’t mean bringing down the higher, but raising the lower up to the level of the higher. In Ego, every person tries to bring down the higher by any means. This nature starts the process of self-destruction. One cannot learn new things, but keep on thinking about the evil methods to bring down the progressive person.
Self Respect VS Abhiman
Self-respect is the virtue of oneness. Abhiman is the result of gaining supremacy in an area with ego. The thought process of self-respect is related to the duty towards himself without selfishness. To undermine the self-respect of others is a sin. It is the highest form of self-respect to admit our errors and mistakes and make amends for them. To make a mistake is only an error in judgment, but to adhere to it when it is discovered shows infirmity of character. Self-respect is the fruit of discipline, the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself. Self-respect is the cornerstone of all virtue.
” It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are. ” – Roy Disney, American Film Writer, Producer, and Nephew of Walt Disney
- Dimensions of Trust in Human values
- Trust and Respect as the Foundational Value of Relationships
- Difference Between Intention and Competence
- Respect – respect means individuality
- Understanding the Harmony in the Society